Victoria Kilner
MBACP dip, Counsellor
I’m Victoria — a BACP-registered Integrative Somatic Therapist helping adults who are fed up with feeling overwhelmed, stuck in patterns, or disconnected from themselves. I work with emotions and nervous system responses — not just thoughts — so you won’t leave sessions feeling like you’ve talked in circles.
Who I support
You might be here because:
Anxiety, overwhelm or emotional intensity are running the show
You’re exhausted by stress, burnout or over-thinking
Self-esteem, boundaries or relationships feel impossible
Past experiences still show up in your body and reactions
You want calm that actually sticks — not surface fixes
You’re ready to understand you, not just survive life
I work with trauma, relationships, self-worth, depression, grief/loss, neurodiversity (including ADHD), chronic health stress, life
transitions — and more. Every person brings something unique, and that’s welcome here.
How I work
Therapy with me isn’t one rigid method — it’s you-centred and adaptable. I blend:
Somatic awareness (body-mind connection work)
Trauma-informed therapy
Integrative approaches tailored to your needs
Practical tools for nervous system regulation
Together we slow the overwhelm, build real coping skills, and help your body stop treating life like a threat. Everything is optional — you stay in control of the pace and direction.
What to expect
Your first session is straightforward — we talk about:
What brings you here
What you want to change or understand
How you want to work together
No pressure to unpack everything in one go — safety and clarity come first.
A bit about me
I’m professional and grounded, but also real — no therapist mystique here. Clients often describe me as calm, relatable, and honest. My approach honours your experience without judgment.
Before therapy I spent ten years as a massage therapist navigating pain, chronic conditions and stress — which fuels my interest in how the body stores emotion. I’ve also supported young people in college settings and now work exclusively with adults in private practice.

Experience
I currently work as a student counsellor for young people aged 16 and older. This role involves short-term therapy that covers issues such as stress, career concerns, anxiety, academic pressure, loss, grief, trauma, neurodiversity, sexuality, relationships, abuse, bullying, and self-esteem.
In private practice, I have experience dealing with trust issues, difficult childhoods, self-esteem, confidence, co-dependency, anxiety, depression, trauma, nervous system regulation, and addictions.
I am currently studying how trauma can be stored in the body and mind and how therapy can address this. This includes teaching skills that empower clients to gain control over their nervous system, which can be transformative for those struggling with anxiety and depression. I guide individuals in discovering their true selves, finding their voice with authentic expression, recovering from people-pleasing behaviours, building confidence, establishing boundaries, and cultivating trust.
Previously: The Eaves, a low-cost counselling service, provided long-term counselling for adults. This extended engagement allows us to delve deeper into emotions and life obstacles, helping clients find effective coping strategies and implement lasting changes.
I also have experience working with individuals in the adult industry and a solid understanding of addiction recovery, including the challenges faced by adult children of alcoholics. Prior to this, I spent ten years as a massage therapist, focusing on pain relief, stress management, chronic illness, and cancer therapies.
Qualifications
- Level 5 CPCAB Trauma, Somatic & Psychodynamic Therapy
- Level 4 CPCAB Integrative Counselling
- ADHD practitioner training
- 30-hour Experiential Psychodynamic Theory
- Ongoing CPD in trauma, nervous system regulation, and somatic tools
Additional Training and CPD
- The Teenage Brain- LKC Services
- Let’s Talk about Sex- CPD The Eaves
- Self-Agency- Winnicott- Wessex Counselling Services
- Impacts of Workplace Stress on the Body- LSM
- Training your Vagas Nerve- Jessica Maguire
- Christine Sanderson trauma informed PESI
Memberships & Accreditations
Areas of counselling I work with
- Abuse
- Addiction
- ADHD
- Anger Management
- Anxiety
- ASD/Neurodivergent
- Bereavement and Loss
- Birth and Bonding
- Bullying (adults)
- Career Coaching
- Chronic Illness and Pain
- Depression
- Divorce and Separation
- Eating Disorders
- Emotional Abuse
- Faith and Culture
- Learning Difficulties
- LGBTQIA+
- Loneliness
- Low Self-Esteem
- OCD
- Parenting Support
- Physical Abuse
- PTSD and Trauma
- Redundancy and Unemployment
- Self-Harm
- Sexual Abuse and Rape
- Sexual Identity and Gender Dysphoria
- Shame and Guilt
- Stress Management
- Teenager and Young Adult Support
Fees
Private Healthcare Insurance
- None