Shame and Guilt

Shame can be experienced as a result of many different events. Sometimes we feel shame is justified, other times we may feel shame where others wouldn’t. Shame can be useful as it develops our compassion and empathy for others. It is a universal emotion we all experience from time to time. However, if shame becomes a chronic state of mind it can affect the way we relate to others, leading to avoidance or withdrawal.

The feeling of guilt could be described as our conscience being bothered by an action we have taken which we then later regret. There are different types of guilt, such as guilt for an action for which we feel ashamed, unworthy or embarrassed. This could be referred to as true guilt. There is also false guilt, which is when we feel guilty for something over which we had no control. This form of guilt can often be more destructive, damaging and unhelpful.

Guilt can have important healing properties and can allow for personal growth and development. When we feel guilty we are recognising that our actions were wrong and could have caused harm to another. If we are able to apologise to others and forgive ourselves for the mistakes we make in life, then we can move forward. However, if you are struggling to accept the emotion, or if your guilt is misplaced, you may benefit from professional guidance.

At The Eaves, our counsellors, psychologists and psychotherapists offer compassionate and empathic therapy. This can help you to acknowledge and release your feelings of shame and guilt.

Are you suffering from shame or guilt and need a consultation?

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