Social media plays a huge part in our modern lives. But how social media affects our mental health has become one of the most important questions of our time. In this post, we dive into the negative effects and impacts of excessive use of social media platforms, explore the links with depression, anxiety, social media addiction, and cyberbullying, and suggest ways to build healthier online habits. We’ll also explain how you can find professional mental health support at The Eaves Counselling and Psychology.

Introduction: A Double-Edged Sword

 

Social media sites like Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok have transformed how we connect. They allow us to share moments and stay in touch. But they can also fuel comparison, loneliness and distraction.

How social media affects our mental health depends on many factors: how we use it, and whether we’re aware of the potential pitfalls.

 

The Evidence: Correlations with Depression and Anxiety

 

A growing body of research shows strong links between heavy use of social media platforms and mental health issues. Individuals who check Facebook/Instagram frequently report higher rates of depression and anxiety, loneliness, and poor self-esteem.

  • Depression and anxiety – Studies show frequent exposure to curated highlights can exacerbate negative thoughts and social comparison.
  • Feelings of anxiety often spike after exposure to negative or distressing content, particularly on 24-hour news feeds or when friends post alarming updates.
  • Cyberbullying and online harassment can be devastating, leading to post-traumatic stress, fear, and further withdrawal from social interaction.

These impacts are particularly concerning for children and adolescents, where even brief episodes of bullying can lead to long-term mental health issues.

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Why Social Media Addiction Develops

 

Social media platforms are engineered for engagement. Notifications, likes, shares, stories. They all offer intermittent rewards that make it hard to log off. Excessive use of social media can become habitual, sometimes even compulsive.

Symptoms of social media addiction may include:

  • A persistent urge to check social media multiple times daily
  • Feeling anxious when unable to access accounts
  • Difficulty concentrating on tasks because of constant digital distraction
  • Withdrawal from real-world interaction in favour of virtual engagement

Understanding this phenomenon is vital, because once social media becomes a coping mechanism, it can magnify mental illness rather than relieve it.

 

Social Media’s Hidden Triggers

 

  • Comparison and Self-Esteem
    Scrolling through curated posts from the “best bits” of life can create feelings of inadequacy. Especially on Instagram, people present perfection, which can fuel negative self-evaluation.
  • Loneliness and Reduced Social Interaction
    Paradoxically, spending hours online can lead to loneliness, even though social platforms are designed for social connection. Real-world interaction often suffers, and messages and likes can’t compensate for all that’s lost.
  • Online Harassment and Cyberbullying
    Being targeted by abusive comments or trolling can have life-altering consequences, especially for young people. Cyberbullying is relentless, it invades your home and follows you everywhere.
  • Fear of Missing Out (FOMO)
    FOMO drives us to stay online longer than we want. We may feel an urgent need to check if anything’s happening, further disrupting our sleep, stress levels, and mental wellbeing.
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Practical Steps to Manage Social Media Use

 

Understanding the problem is one thing – but how can we take action? Here are five strategies:

  • Set time boundaries: Decide on specific “digital detox” periods, especially before bed.
  • Audit your feeds: Unfollow accounts that make you feel anxious, depressed, or inadequate.
  • Use social media deliberately: Instead of scrolling mindlessly, set an intention before opening the app.
  • Create social media rules for children: The earlier we set healthy habits, the better.
  • Know when to call in professional mental health services: If you or a loved one are feeling the strain, counselling can make a significant difference.

 

When to Seek Counselling and Psychological Support

 

If excessive use of social media is negatively impacting work, study, your relationships or your mood, consider reaching out.

Possible red flags:

  • Persistent low mood or newer mental health issues
  • Anxiety, fear, or panic linked to social media use
  • Difficulty stepping away, despite wanting to
  • Withdrawal from relationships
  • Sleep being disrupted by late-night scrolling

At The Eaves we have provided over 20 years of high-quality psychological care 12 hours a day, six days a week, from practices in Guildford, Godalming, Farnham, Haslemere and online. We work with individuals, children, couples and families. Clients can self-refer, or be referred through GPs, mental health teams, private insurers, workplaces and schools.

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Looking Forward: Healthy Online Habits

 

How social media affects our mental health is complex, but the evidence is clear: excessive, unregulated use can lead to depression, anxiety, social media addiction, and amplify existing mental health issues.

We can’t simply ignore social media, but we can learn to use it with awareness and balance.

 

If you’re worried about your online habits, or that of someone you care about, speaking to a qualified counsellor, psychotherapist or psychologist can be life-changing.

At The Eaves, our ethos is to promote mental wellbeing and resilience at every life stage. That includes helping you find healthy ways to relate to social media.

We offer:

  • Child and adolescent support focused on school pressure and social media impacts
  • Family therapy to rebuild connections outside screens
  • Practical online therapy if you aim to cut screen time but need professional guidance
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Final Thoughts

 

Social media in moderation can enrich our lives. But when it becomes excessive, distracting, or even distressing, it can take a serious toll on our mental health.

Being mindful, setting boundaries, and knowing when to seek help are crucial.

 

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By Carina Duvenage

3 July, 2025

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If you notice increased feelings of anxiety, low mood, irritability, or inadequacy after using social media, or you’re spending more time online than intended, it could be having a negative impact. Other signs include trouble sleeping, withdrawing from face-to-face interactions, and difficulty concentrating. If this sounds familiar, it may be time to consider professional mental health support. At The Eaves, we offer tailored counselling and therapy to help manage these symptoms.

Yes, social media addiction is increasingly recognised as a behavioural concern. It refers to a compulsive urge to check social media, often at the expense of sleep, work, or relationships. People may feel anxious or low when not connected, and often lose track of time while scrolling. If you or someone you know is struggling, The Eaves offers assessment and treatment through our team of psychologists and counsellors, both in-person and online.

Absolutely. Therapy can help you understand your online habits, recognise emotional triggers, and develop healthier ways to engage with social media. At The Eaves, we work with individuals, families, and children to build self-awareness, improve real-life connections, and manage the mental health issues linked to digital life. Therapy is a safe space to explore underlying issues like self-esteem, loneliness, or FOMO (fear of missing out).

Yes. Many children and teenagers face challenges such as online harassment, peer pressure, and social media addiction. These can affect their academic performance, mood, and relationships. At The Eaves, we provide child and adolescent therapy designed to support young people in managing stress, building confidence, and creating healthy digital boundaries. You can self-refer, or be referred by a GP, school, or mental health team.