12 Feb 2024

Counselling for Neurodiversity – how it can help Autism and ADHD, and where to find support in Surrey

By Louise Medhurst, Pluralistic Counsellor at The Eaves

Neurodiversity is a concept that recognises and celebrates the natural variation in neurological functioning among individuals. It encompasses conditions such as autism, ADHD and many others. Neurodivergent people often possess unique perspectives, talents, and abilities, but they may also face unique challenges.

In this blog I look at ADHD and autism in particular, and how counselling and psychotherapy can help people with the challenges that these conditions present. Counselling plays a crucial role in supporting neurodivergent individuals by providing them with the tools and strategies to navigate life’s complexities, build self-esteem, and foster personal growth.

What is Neurodiversity?
Neurodivergent individuals have brains that work differently from what is considered the neurotypical norm. This diversity can manifest in various ways, including differences in communication, sensory processing, social interaction, and information processing. It is important to recognise that neurodivergence is not a flaw or disorder; it is simply a different way of being.

What is attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD)?
Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) is a neurodevelopmental condition that affects millions of individuals worldwide. It is characterised by symptoms such as difficulty paying attention, impulsivity, and hyperactivity.

Living with ADHD can be challenging, as it can impact various aspects of life, from academics and work to personal relationships. Fortunately, psychotherapy can be a powerful tool in helping individuals with ADHD understand their condition, develop effective coping strategies, and achieve their full potential.

ADHD is not simply a matter of being easily distracted or fidgety; it is a complex neurological condition that affects the brain’s executive functions. These functions include attention regulation, impulse control, organisation, and time management. Individuals with ADHD often struggle with these core areas, which can lead to difficulties in many areas of life.

What are the challenges faced by individuals with ADHD?
Academic and Occupational Challenges: ADHD can make it challenging to focus on tasks, meet deadlines, and stay organised in school or the workplace.

Impulsivity: Impulsivity can lead to impulsive decision-making, which may have negative consequences.

Relationship Struggles: Difficulties with impulse control and emotional regulation can strain personal relationships.

Low Self-Esteem: Repeated failures and criticism can erode self-esteem and self-worth.

Coexisting Conditions: ADHD often coexists with other conditions, such as anxiety, depression and sometimes, addiction, further complicating one’s mental health.

How can counselling help with ADHD?
Counselling and psychotherapy can play a vital role in helping individuals with ADHD address these challenges and improve their overall well-being:

Psychoeducation: Therapists can provide education about ADHD, helping individuals and their families understand the condition and its impact. This knowledge can reduce any shame and self-blame.

Coping Strategies: Psychotherapists and counsellors work with individuals to develop practical coping strategies tailored to their specific needs. These strategies may include time management techniques, organisational skills, and stress reduction methods.

Behavioural Interventions: Counselling often involves implementing behavioural interventions to address specific challenges. For children with ADHD, this might include behaviour modification techniques. For adults, it could involve strategies to improve executive functioning skills.

Emotional Regulation: Therapy can help individuals with ADHD learn to manage their emotions effectively, reducing the risk of anxiety and depression.

Self-Esteem Building: Counselling can boost self-esteem by helping individuals recognise their strengths and achievements despite their ADHD-related difficulties.

Goal Setting: Psychotherapists can assist in setting realistic goals and developing strategies to work towards them, whether in education, career, or personal life.

ADHD is a lifelong condition that requires ongoing support and management. Psychotherapy offers individuals with ADHD the opportunity to develop essential skills, gain insight into their condition, and build a stronger sense of self. With the right guidance and strategies, individuals with ADHD can harness their unique strengths, excel in various aspects of life, and lead fulfilling, productive lives. Counselling plays a crucial role in empowering them to thrive and navigate the challenges of living with ADHD.

What is Autism or ASD (Autism Spectrum Disorder)?
Autism, or Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD), is a complex neurodevelopmental condition that affects people in various ways. It is characterised by differences in social communication, restricted interests, and repetitive behaviours.

Living with autism can present unique challenges, but with the right support, individuals with autism can lead fulfilling lives. Psychotherapy is an invaluable resource that can provide guidance, strategies, and emotional support to help individuals with autism navigate the world more successfully.

What are the challenges faced by individuals with Autism?
Autism is a spectrum disorder, which means that it manifests differently in each individual. While some may have significant support needs, others may be highly independent. Some common features of autism include:

Social and Communication Difficulties: Many individuals with autism find it challenging to engage in typical social interactions and may struggle with understanding and expressing emotions.

Sensory Sensitivities: Heightened sensory sensitivities can lead to discomfort and overstimulation in response to various sensory stimuli, such as sounds, lights, or textures.

Anxiety and Stress: The unpredictability of social situations and sensory sensitivities can contribute to anxiety and stress for individuals with autism.

Restricted Interests and Routines: Many individuals with autism have specific interests or routines that they strongly prefer to maintain, which can sometimes limit their ability to adapt to new situations.

How can counselling help with Autism?
Counselling can provide support and guidance to individuals with autism in the following ways:

Social Skills Development: Therapists can work with individuals to improve their social communication skills, enhance their ability to understand and interpret social cues, and build meaningful relationships.

Emotional Regulation: Individuals with autism may struggle with emotional regulation. Therapy can help them learn strategies to manage emotions and reduce anxiety.

Coping with Sensory Sensitivities: Therapists can provide techniques to manage sensory sensitivities and help individuals become more comfortable in different environments.

Anxiety and Stress Reduction: Therapy can teach relaxation techniques and coping strategies to reduce anxiety and stress related to social situations or sensory sensitivities.

Self-Esteem Building: Therapists can help individuals with autism build self-esteem and self-confidence by focusing on their strengths and achievements.

Psychotherapy is a valuable resource for individuals with autism, providing them with the tools, strategies, and emotional support they need to overcome challenges and thrive in a neurotypical world.

By addressing social communication difficulties, sensory sensitivities, anxiety, and other aspects of autism, counselling can empower individuals to unlock their potential, build meaningful relationships, and lead fulfilling lives.

It plays a vital role in promoting inclusion and understanding within our society and helps individuals with autism reach their fullest potential.

Neurodiversity is an integral part of the human experience, and society’s growing recognition of it is an encouraging sign of progress. Counselling is a valuable resource for neurodivergent individuals, offering them guidance, support, and tools to thrive in a neurotypical world.

By embracing neurodiversity and providing the necessary support, we can help neurodivergent individuals harness their unique strengths and lead fulfilling lives that contribute to a more inclusive and diverse society.

Where can I find support or counselling for ADHD or Autism in Surrey?

The Eaves Counselling & Psychology

The Eaves are a body of psychotherapists and counsellors working from offices in Guildford, Farnham, Haslemere and Godalming. Some of these practitioners (including myself) offer help with ADHD and autism:

01483 917000
3 Paris, Parklands, Railton Road, Guildford, Surrey, GU2 9JX

NHS Surrey and Borders Partnership

The ASD and ADHD Service for Surrey provides diagnosis and support for adults with Autistic Spectrum Disorder (ASD) and Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) across Surrey.

Opening hours for this service are Monday to Friday, 9-5.


The National Autistic Society

The NAS has a directory of support groups available in Surrey on their website as well as much more information about Autism:


ADHD Foundation – The Neurodiversity Charity

There’s lots of information on this website with links to many resources:


The Eaves Counselling and Psychology

Louise Medhurst, Counsellor and Psychotherapist at The Eaves, is based at our Guildford practice. To find out more about Louise, or to enquire about her latest availability, please visit her profile here

The Eaves Counselling and Psychology Ltd is a select professional body of Counsellors, Psychotherapists and Psychologists, providing high quality psychological care Monday to Saturday between 9am and 9pm from our practices in Guildford, Godalming, Farnham, Haslemere and online.

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