Sexual abuse takes place when someone is pressured into sexual activity against their will. This can range from touching, taking photographs or videos, online abuse, grooming and blackmail to any form of unwanted sexual activity including rape. People who have been sexually abused are often afraid to speak out, as they often know their abuser. It can be a partner, family member or person in a position of power, such as a teacher or cleric. Raising the issue may feel too shameful to the person who has been abused. Victims are often afraid that they won’t be believed. Also, that their experiences will be denied, or that they might be blamed for their abuser’s unacceptable and criminal behaviour. Sexual abuse can also happen in an existing relationship, which can feel very overwhelming. The Eaves has specially trained professionals that can help you to work through your feelings surrounding your sexual abuse, your abuser and your relationships in a safe, confidential space.
Sexual abuse is sexual behaviour or a sexual act forced upon a woman, man or child without their consent. Also referred to as sexual assault or sexual violence, it includes unwanted sexual touching, forced oral sex, and rape, among other sexual acts. No matter what occurs, it’s not the survivor’s fault that they were assaulted – and help is available to begin healing from such abuse.
Unfortunately, sexual assault crime has increased over the years. Currently in the UK, the statistics are as high as 1 in 4 women, 1 in 6 children and 1 in 18 men have been sexually abused.
Consent is an agreement between participants to engage in sexual activity. Consent should be clearly and freely communicated. A verbal and affirmative expression of consent can help both you and your partner to understand and respect each other’s boundaries.
Consent cannot be given by individuals who are underage, intoxicated or incapacitated by drugs or alcohol, or asleep or unconscious. If someone agrees to an activity under pressure of intimidation or threat, that isn’t considered consent because it was not given freely. Unequal power dynamics, such as engaging in sexual activity with an employee or student, also mean that consent cannot be freely given.
