By Stella Goddard, Counsellor at The Eaves
Assumptions
When we look at other people, we all make instant assumptions. These may be based on many beliefs and thoughts. In an instant, our brain takes in information about how they look and sound as well as a sense of whether we feel safe or not. If they are not like us, we may make judgements on clothing, race, religion, gender, sexuality and much more. This can lead to conscious or unconscious bias and rejection of others. Making assumptions is part of being human – what we do with our assumptions makes all the difference. Are we willing to be curious and learn about how other people experience life? Imagine what a difference that might make to the way that we see the world, relationships and our place in it.
Towards building a more loving society
If we are not self-aware and reflective, we may find that we reject whole groups of people. This is not helpful for building a collaborative and loving society in which we treat other people with respect and dignity. There is so much conflict in the world now – we may feel powerless but all of us meet people every day. Can we change some of our assumptions and take time to really see and listen to those with whom we interact.
Relationships Matter
The foundation of the therapeutic work is the professional relationship. We all know if we are truly being accepted and respected by others. This leads to us feeing safe and able to share our lived experience. Counsellors have the privilege of hearing the stories of other people and being a part of helping those who are in distress to process their pain. Counsellors honour the humanity and intrinsic worth of each person they meet. Without this, the collaborative work would not be possible. Their intention is to build-up and empower, not diminish or reject.
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